Monday, March 30, 2009

I've learnt...

Life, as it is truly said, is a continuous learning process, and each day we are alive, the things that we see and that happen to us help give us a better perspective that influence our future decisions. For every man that chooses to pick out salient points from all his experiences, the acquisition of knowledge and wisdom is limitless, and can be evidenced when some time is taken to list them out. When i did so myself in writing this blog, i was amazed to know that i could put down all the points below, especially considering the fact that as a very (ahem) young man, i still have quite a lot of years of learning to go through, and i know for sure i didn't exhaust the points; i only put down what occured to me at the time.

All of the points were impressed upon me by life's little experiences, some sober, some good, some darkly humorous, and i feel obliged to share them through this blog (which should reflect my thoughts, anyway). They are, of course, not meant to be authoritative statements; just the way i see things based on my experiences. I'm guessing a good number of them might actually be acceptable tho' ;)!

Here goes. In my life, i've learnt that:

...academic brilliance is quite vastly different from general intelligence, and is usually a poor indicator of future success

...things hardly turn out exactly the way we think

...one moment of rash action can lead to several lifetimes of grief

...if you don't take a few minutes to think a decision through now, you may end up thinking about it for the rest of your life

...a listening ear can accommodate the weight of the heaviest of hearts

...the real reward for doing good lies in the feeling you get - there really aren't many feelings that can rival it

...truth indeed does set one free, but then, sometimes truth, like freedom, comes at a heavy price

...the right thing to do is not always the best thing to do

...not forgetting does not necessarily mean not forgiving; It may mean learning.

...the world can be wrong sometimes

...shortcuts are nice, but sometimes they make you miss out on the finer points of life

...every man is in the position he is in by the virtue of God's grace or dictation

...the smartest people got that way because they asked questions

...experts aren't always right

...no amount of salary can beat happiness in your work

...every person has secrets in his life that he's not proud of

...we were all equally created by God as human beings, but we are not all equal human beings, no matter what anyone may want to believe

...the things we learn easiest and are most successful at are in line with our innate nature, so why fight it?

...the best things in life are free, but they are so costly to lose

...it's not worth killing yourself over any issue over which you have no control

...you don't have to be rich, famous, tough or cool to be admired and respected

...it makes sense to do something because you are ready, not because you are expected to

...there really is no blueprint for success and wealth, only opinions, which are not always true

...there's no shame in crying, laughing, being kind and polite, being humble, being generous, loving, having emotions, doing things the right way or generally any of those other things that make us human - it is what makes the world beautiful

...we have no right whatsoever to question God

...the people who love us the most are not necessarily those people who are there all the time, but those people who are there when they are needed most

...we can't stop the rain from falling - we can only get umbrellas

...it doesn't mean that the guy who is already on the stairs will get to the top of the building before you, it may just be that the elevator hasn't arrived yet

...the grass is not always greener on the other side; in fact, most times it is much worse

...image is something, but not everything

...it only makes sense to do things we are comfortable with, regardless of popular opinion

...life really isn't fair, and is not likely to suddenly be; so let's get over the envy and resentment we harbour for people who appear to be doing better than us

...the best indicator of a person's true nature is the content of his heart, and until there is a way to determine that, everyone deserves the right to be treated with an open mind

...some things are just best left unsaid

...there is somebody out there for everybody

...the "smallest" things are usually the most important

...life is much too short to dwell too much on anything

Okay. Guess that is enough for this blog, or else it would start looking like an epistle. I do hope that my humble nuggets of wisdom be worth the while of anyone who reads it.

Till i am stirred up by my writing muse again, i'll sign off for now.

Cheers.

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

A Few Things About Me




Perhaps it would be only logical for me to make my first post a little about myself.


Ok. Here goes.


First of all, i have named this blog My Hyde Side partly because it rhymes, and more importantly, because i consider it an opportunity to express myself in a manner that a lot of people who know me well would find to be somewhat alien. Generally i [believe i] am perceived as funny, jovial, fun-loving, happy-go-lucky - basically unserious; here i can show that sometimes i can be pretty thoughtful, contemplative, brooding, angst-filled, or soulful in my private moments, far from the well-known version of me out there. I consider this side of me closer to the essential me than the other. In that sense then, i could say i am not so well known, except perhaps by a few very close friends.


That however is not to say that my posts will be bland and uninteresting; my sense of humour is paradoxically as inseparable from me as my darker side. Naturally, i tend to see the funny side of issues in my thoughts, and my posts are, after all, supposed to be a reflection of my thoughts.


I guess an ideal start point for me would be to list out 10 Things I Like and 10 Things I Hate. A psychology student would be able to look at it and tell a whole lot about me. Guess the average reader can pick up a few hints too. Bear in mind however that most of these things were picked on the spur of the moment and as such, the lists are not absolute.


10 Quick Things I Like

Making people smile


Comedy

Creative Arts (the rational part anyway)


Courtesy and politeness


Football


Panache


Christmas


Fridays


Chocolate


Chicks (especially intelligent and talented ones)



(If there's ANY guy out there who can seriously deny that at least 1 of the last 3 elements are on his Top 10, then there must be something wrong with him).





10 Quick Things I Hate


NEPA

Noise, especially one that is continuous

Anything monotonous

Cricket (the sport, not necessarily so the insect)

Cockroaches

People that act too serious because it is 'mature'

People that live by other people's ideas and ideals and, naturally, feel they're so smart and sophisticated because of it

Like 70% of Lagos drivers

Man U, the club and Arsenal, the fans (most of them anyway)

Sunday evening (when i'm not on vacation)


Ok. Guess that's just about it for a first post. I hope i have been able to shed a little light on myself with it. For the record, there are many more things that i hate quite passionately, but time and space would note be enough to list them all. Besides, it's a tad too early to get so negative in my writings, so i'll let go for now. Maybe later in time, i would post a rant or two about some of such things. In the meantime, I'm cool with this, and i hope it is worthwhile reading.